It is okay to not have sex in weeks or even months, what is not okay, however, is not to feel the urge or even make attempts.
As we know, motherhood on the part of the wife and work on the part of the husband would someday take its toll on the sexual activities of a loving couple.
You find out that, if you eventually start counting the number of times you get down with each other, it is usually on the low side, there are times you begin to set things right, baby asleep, toddler busy somewhere or even when all of them are asleep, just when you are about to touch down, you hear the cry of a baby or your other kids calling for you and in some rare cases, you imagine a baby crying(it’s that serious) and you end up not doing what you intended.
This is very okay, do not beat yourself up or think the attraction isn’t there anymore.
Do not be too hard on yourself thinking your spouse thinks less of you or he is even seeing someone else or isn’t interested in you.
Trying and making attempts is what keeps the fire burning, Flirting and even talking about it helps you not lose touch with that aspect of your life.
Sending signals, making your spouse know that you actually do think about sex but circumstances isn’t allowing it helps you in times that it isn’t forthcoming.
Playfulness between couples creates a good intimate tension.
To tease is to provoke feelings from someone. Intimate teasing is an attempt to provoke them intimately. There are many ahadith that point to how playful the wives of the Prophet (PBUH) used to be around the Messenger of Allah. Intimately teasing doesn’t necessarily mean sex, so if however, something happens and it didn’t continue, you would have at least known you both tried, This gives a sense of belonging and wanting, it makes it easy for you not to remember that it’s been long you actually had sex and that when you eventually do, it would be mind-blowing and would seem like it wasn’t that long you had it.
Don’t stop teasing,
Don’t stop flirting,
Keep the fire burning.
May our homes be blessed.
Do share with your friends and I would really appreciate your thought in the comment section.
Thank you!
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This is so helpful, u are so on point.
U r very correct my sister. Motherhood has really decreased the frequency of sex. I am mother of 2kids and my second is just 8months so and u can attest to it. Sometimes u get too tired or not in the mood. Ours is even worse now cos he sleeps in the guest room as our bed can contain the 4 of us. But what helps us is we flirt a lot. He is always pulling my nipples and taunting me. And we always joke about not having time to grease the machines. 😆😁Lol. May Allah bless our homes
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