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Ah, love. That powerful emotion that brings two hearts together, the foundation of every strong marriage. But let’s be honest, sisters: love, on its own, isn’t always enough. Life throws curveballs, routines become monotonous, and sometimes, that spark we felt in the beginning needs a little rekindling.

So, how do we, as Muslim couples, stay motivated and build a marriage that flourishes, not just survives? Here are some practical tips to keep the love alive and your connection strong:

Nurture Your Spiritual Connection:

At the heart of every Muslim marriage lies a shared faith. Here are ways to keep that connection vibrant:

Pray Together: I think I have talked so many times about the benefits of praying together here on this blog. This is because it is one of the foundation that cement a great relationship. Start your day or end it with a shared prayer, creating a beautiful routine that strengthens your bond with Allah (SWT) and each other.

Learn Together: Take a Quran class or explore Islamic lectures together. Expanding your knowledge of Islam strengthens your faith and provides shared experiences for discussion.

Practice Forgiveness: Remember, we all make mistakes. Embrace the power of forgiveness, following the Prophet’s (PBUH) teachings on seeking forgiveness and strengthening your bond with each other.

Rekindle the Flame of Communication:

Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. Here are some ways to keep the conversation flowing:

Schedule Regular Check-Ins: Dedicate specific, uninterrupted time each week to talk openly and honestly. Discuss challenges, joys, and anything on your minds.

Practice Active Listening: Really listen to your spouse, acknowledge their feelings, and avoid interrupting.

Express Appreciation: Don’t take each other for granted. Verbally express your gratitude for their efforts, big and small.

Maintain a Playful Spirit: Don’t let life get too serious! Flirt, tease each other playfully, and keep the romance alive.

Prioritize Your Individual Growth:

Happy spouses make a happy marriage. Here are ways to invest in yourselves:

Pursue Your Passions: Dedicate time to hobbies and activities you enjoy. A fulfilled individual contributes more positively to the relationship.

Embrace Learning: Encourage each other to take courses, read books, or learn new skills. Personal growth keeps things interesting and fuels conversations.

Maintain Physical and Mental Wellbeing: Prioritize healthy eating, exercise, and getting enough sleep. Take care of mental health by seeking support if needed. Happy and healthy individuals create a happier environment for their partner.

Keep the Spark Alive:

Let’s be real, life gets busy. But here are some ways to keep the romance alive amidst daily routines:

Plan Date Nights (Big or Small): It doesn’t have to be extravagant! Enjoy a candlelit dinner at home, take a walk in nature, or try a new activity together.

Maintain Physical Intimacy: Don’t let intimacy fall by the wayside. Explore ways to keep the physical connection strong through affection, quality time, and open communication.

Plan Adventures (Big or Small): Go on a weekend getaway, explore a new part of town, or simply have a picnic in the park. Break free from the routine and create new memories together.

Express Love Through Acts of Service: Help each other with chores, offer a gentle massage, or simply make their favourite meal.

These tips are just a starting point but sisters, remember, every marriage is unique. Find what works best for you and your spouse.

Here are some additional tips for you:

Marriage Counselling: Don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance from therapists who specialize in Muslim marriage counselling.

Islamic Books and Lectures: Explore resources that discuss healthy Muslim marriages from an Islamic perspective.

Building a strong and fulfilling marriage is a continuous journey. Remember, with faith in Allah (SWT), open communication, and a commitment to each other, your Muslim marriage can be a source of immense joy, growth, and tranquillity.

Bonus Tip: For a deeper dive into navigating the complexities of marriage within the Islamic framework, consider reading “The Vivacious Lady”. This book explores common challenges faced by Muslim couples and offers practical guidance for building a fulfilling and happy marriage based on Islamic principles.