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Remember the feelings of excitement and anticipation you experienced when you first met?
The relationship is still intact, but, you have lost that necessary intimacy you need to keep your love alive. Don’t sit back and accept a sexless relationship as normal., learn to reconnect with your partner and bring back the passion.

WHAT CAUSES A SEXLESS RELATIONSHIP?
Most couples don’t choose to be in a sexless relationship, It’s often something that happens gradually, the newness of the relationship wears off and the passion goes with it.

New relationship stressors appear like long work hours, financial stress or a new baby and you never seem to recover, weeks turn into months with no intimacy and you find yourself in a no-sex marriage.
A sexless marriage can also be caused by both emotional and physical health issues, depression or stress, as well as many medications that can decrease libido. You may also find your libidos were mismatched to begin with or that you’re never “in the mood” at the same time and if you’re constantly in conflict, you may rarely be in the mood.
Like in all life’s problems, you need to address the root problem and ask yourself what you should do to fix it.
Thankfully, we are here to help you get your head back in the game and help your (sex) life thrive again

WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE! 

First, change your MINDSET. Commit to reigniting that lost sense of passion. Learn what you can do in a sexless marriage that will allow you to regain that physical intimacy and connection.

• REALIGN THE ORDER OF THINGS 

Examine the roles you and your partner have taken on in your marriage, Have they changed over time? Did the partner with feminine touch take on the role of the decision-maker? Has the man had to step down from being the provider? If that’s the case, return the roles back to where they belong

• DON’T BE TOO COMFORTABLE

 A sexless marriage is often a comfortable marriage. When you settle down together and move past the phase where every day is full of excitement, you get lazy and the passion fades.
Think of all the little things you used to do for your partner at the initial stage of your marriage, The calls, and random text messages you sent to show how much they meant to you. The special meal you prepared is now left for the festive period. 
Why did you stop? because you got comfortable, You stopped treating each other like you were special, You stopped dating each other. You need to retrace your steps and start doing those things, not just for them but for yourself, make that call and ask how their day is going at work.

• COMMUNICATE 

Can we emphasize this word enough? How well have you communicated with your partner about your feelings toward bedroom affairs? Are they also unhappy with how infrequently you’re being intimate? Or have you been simmering in silence, letting your resentment build and further giving up on any hope you have of rekindling your passion? Chances are, you are not communicating verbally and emotionally well enough. Commit to speaking up and asking them how they think and feel about the situation. It is not that easy to tell a man to up his game in the bedroom but it is very important. When you’re able to communicate on a mental and emotional level with your spouse, you’ll create a deeper physical connection bond too. 

• BE VULNERABLE

Communication will only improve your connection if you’re willing to be completely open and honest. Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, and weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged, Yet, being willing to be vulnerable is the only way to create true intimacy in a relationship and a sexless relationship is about intimacy more than it is about sex. If you are not willing to share your truth and be empathetic to your partner’s truth, you’ll never be able to fix your sexless marriage.

In conclusion, you are not the same people you were when you met, because, you’ve both grown and changed. This isn’t a bad thing, a sexless marriage can survive but a healthy, successful marriage embraces changes and continues innovating in the relationship. The things your love life needed in the beginning aren’t the same as what it needs now. As long as you’re willing to communicate openly and honestly with your partner, you will be able to revive and sustain the sexual intimacy in your marriage.
May our homes be blessed,

Love Always 

Kimsheedah