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The bitter words you unthinkably utter with the deliberate intention to degrade your spouse can make your relationship bitter and show you in a very negative way.

The more often you fight with your spouse, the more bitter and resentful you become towards him.

It is very important for couples to develop the skills on how to effectively deal with anger in their marriage.

Getting angry is inevitable. It is normal to get angry because anger is a healthy emotion but how to manage the emotion constructively so as not to destroy our relationship is very important.

Recognizing what makes us angry can help us find better ways to cope with this emotion. It’s not about getting angry, but what we do with it that is important.

Showing anger in a marriage can be very helpful and draw couples closer together, but it can also backfire if couples don’t use it in a constructive manner.

Couples will have different opinions. There are issues that can’t be compromised, left unresolved, it can lead to distrust, tension, and even fear.

Many couples feel uncomfortable about expressing anger directly so they learn not to make an issue of things or suppress it. Suppressed anger can be dangerous because it is always there waiting for an opportunity to surface.

Tips on managing anger in marriage:

• Don’t assume you know how your partner feels.
• Talk about how you feel about what they do to you rather than what they do
• Avoid mixed messages.
• Choose the time and place to talk it out
• The focus should be on the problem, not the person.. If you have a complaint, propose a solution.
• Accept that you can’t change your partner but you can change what you do and how you react to what they do.

It’s not about winning a fight, the idea is for partners to try to build up, not tear each other down even as they argue.

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